The topic of self esteem comes up in a myriad of ways, and most of us, at one time or another, have felt:

  • Crippled by third-party criticism


  • Out of place in different groups including family, friends, and peers


  • A lack of accomplishment, even though we may have done our best in different life circumstances.

And the list may go on! It is clear, however, that the above feeling(s) are not reserved for people in certain income groups, or weight groups, or educational groups. You might be wealthy, slender, well educated, successful in a particular role, yet still have self-esteem issues. Most people, at one point in time, have had to grapple with lack of confidence in a situation or two. What is concerning, though, is when these feelings persist. So how do you nurture feelings of confidence most of the time so you can always overcome periods of self-doubt?

  • Begin recognizing your own value. Notice the things you do that bring you pleasure and satisfaction. Please note that these things should never include things that hurt or bring pain to others. The value should be about things that benefit you and humanity.


  • Be authentic in your response to stimuli in your environment. This is one of the most challenging actions to take because we may have given in to others to keep the peace, or we often fear reprisals for expressing our true feelings. But you can only boost your self esteem by asserting your truth quietly, yet powerfully.


The Golden Rule states that “we should love our neighbor as ourselves.” Why is the sentiment relevant today? In my community-building consulting, I assert the concept that we are all on this journey together. There is no room for “us versus them.” In what I trademarked “The Ubuntu Effect,” we only progress as a whole. Ubuntu means “I Am Because We Are,” and this idea is at the root of every community growth and success. The concept is essential to developing and sustaining harmonious, healthy, and prosperous communities.

  • Identify things that may be sabotaging your progress, and/or


  • Develop specific strategies that will enable you to achieve your desired results.

When you draw a plan to overcome your self-esteem challenges, you will be able to open up to opportunities that will bring more joy to your life. I truly believe that there’s nothing more beautiful than being who you are. This means you must leave your shortcomings for another day and begin accepting all the wonderful things about you.

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embodies wisdom from different traditions and is committed to helping women own their power in their relationships and life.

Dr. Mensimah Shabazz, PhD is a Transformational Coach, Teacher and Author. She embodies wisdom from different traditions and is committed to helping women own their power in their relationships and life.


Dr. Mensimah Shabazz, PhD is a Transformational Coach, Teacher and Author. She

embodies wisdom from different traditions and is committed to helping women own their power in their relationships and life.

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